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When You’re Not The One Who Needs Therapy

  Ok, so everyone needs therapy sometimes We’re all a little neurotic. I might be a little biased, I have yet to meet a person who couldn’t benefit from a little self-reflection in a supportive relationship . In fact, when I do meet someone who seems at ease with who...

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How to Not Give A F*** About Your Family’s Opinions

It’s early December. This can be a really wild time for a lot of people- right in the middle of holiday madness. Some of you might be coming back from a Thanksgiving trip to see family, others might be gearing up to get together with loved ones for Christmas or...

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The Good-Enough Sanctimommy

You’ve probably heard  the term “sanctimommy.” It describes a woman who excels at taking care of her children and actively looks down on other parents who aren’t quite as together. The internet is full of forums where women verbally beat up on other women for their...

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Thanksgiving: Obligation, Misery, and Cranberry Sauce

It’s pretty much a cliché- you don’t like going to your nasty Uncle Don’s house for Thanksgiving but you do it every year because you have to. You suck it up, grit your teeth, take deep breaths, and end up downing an extra glass of wine or stuffing yourself till...

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Intuitive Eating and Therapy

Reading the book Intuitive Eating, by Elise Resche and Evelyn Tribole, totally blew my mind. This was many years ago, and instantly I felt the pressure just stop. I didn’t have to follow weird Pinterest graphics about eating only greens for three weeks? I didn’t have...

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You Do Not Need Permission For Your Feelings

“I told my partner/boss/mom I’m upset about this, but they said I was being irrational.” I probably hear some variation of the above sentence once a week.   Nope. Nope nope nope.   The second part of that sentence does not negate the first part. “Feelings aren’t...

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The Dishwashing Exercise

This is an exercise I suggest to my clients to help calm anxiety and encourage curiosity.   If you’re anything like me, you have a few dirty dishes in the sink. Start washing them. Ground into your senses: Sight: what’s in front of you? If there’s crud on the dishes,...

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Bitch Eating Crackers Syndrome

If you’re reading this, chances are you spend a lot of time on the internet. You may have run into the term “bitch eating crackers”*- the idea that when you hate someone enough, you get annoyed with anything and everything they do, even innocent things like eating. We...

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Getting the Most out of Therapy: A User’s Gude

To a certain extent, therapy is easy. You just need to show up and be a little bit willing, and we work together to let what needs to happen unfold. However, you're probably coming to therapy because you want results- to feel better, to work something out. Here are...

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Surviving a Crappy Job- How to Stress Less about your Career

I hear it a lot in my office- “I hate my job, but I have to stick around for X, Y, and Z reasons.” Most people, at some point in their careers, work a job that isn’t 100% aligned with their long term goals and current needs. If changing jobs isn't possible, or doesn't...

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What Learning An Instrument Taught Me About Psychotherapy

"The harp is such a beautiful instrument," a friend mused. "It's impossible to make it sound bad!" "Try me," I thought. I spend a lot of my time as a therapist busting up what my clients deem "impossible." I wasn't going to drop that defiance now. I don't know what...

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